Know Your Partner’s Love Language
Feel Closer to Your Partner By Knowing Their Love Language!!!
If you have a sweetie–knowing your partner’s love language is the key to a happy healthy relationship.
So….What is a love language?
A love language is a way that love is expressed to you so that YOU FEEL LOVED. Dr. Gary Chapman wrote a book called the 5 love languages…and it’s transformed relationships and helped people see THE THINGS THAT MAKE YOU FEEL LOVED MAY NOT BE THE WAY YOUR PARTNER EXPERIENCES IT.
The 5 love languages are:
*Words of Affirmation”-You love hearing compliments, like “you look beautiful”, “that meal was so delicious” or “Ilove the way you make me feel”. This makes you really happy.
“Acts of Service”–You light up when someone DOES SOMETHING FOR YOU…like taking out the trash, picking up the kids, or giving you a message.
“Receiving gifts”–When someone GETS YOU SOMETHING AS A PRESENT–whether it’s a candy cane, starbucks, or a jaguar–this is your love language baby. This represents to you feeling happy and loved.
“Quality Time”–When someone spends TIME WITH YOU–this makes your day. Whether it’s sitting and watching tv, going to the store, horsebackriding, simply being by your side and spending time with you. This, for you, translates into feeling LOVED
“Physical Touch”–Holding hands, someone playing with your hair, even having sexy time in the bedroom. Physical touch is your things–and makes you feel valued and loved.
Here’s why it’s so important?
Let’s say your love language is QUALITY TIME and your husband’s love language is RECEIVING GIFTS. He’s promised to be home from work at 6pm–but gets busy at the office and makes it home–WITH ICE CREAM– by 7:30pm.
You’re upset because you didn’t get to spend time together–and by 7:30pm, you have to give the kids baths, pack lunches, and are now too busy for time together. Feeling hurt, you act cold and distant and he feels pushed away.
Plus, he’s really confused. I mean–come on….he brought you ICE CREAM. And in his world–
that’s how HE FEELS LOVED–by receiving gifts. So he thinks everything is fine.
You wanted TIME and aren’t really appreciating the cookies and cream treat.
This sets up a dynamic of tension and does not promote closeness or intimacy.
NEWS FLASH….YOU AND YOUR PARTNER PROBABLY HAVE DIFFERENT LOVE LANGUAGES. Awareness is the key and understanding that you need to express from a place of what HE wants….not what YOU want….and vice versa. Makes for a happier union